Definition: On every course, there are a few holes that give every golfer trouble. The ones where, no matter how many times you play the course, yo... Definition: On every course, there are a few holes that give every golfer trouble. The ones where, no matter how many times you play the course, you can never quite tame those holes. Don’t you just hate those holes? In Hate ‘Em, you get choose two of those holes and, before the round starts, write down a par on each. A stipulation is that the two holes must be comprised of one par 4 and one par 5. Hate ‘Em is usually played with full handicaps. At the end of the round, add up the strokes (including the two pars on your Hate ‘Em holes), deduct your handicap strokes, and the low player (or group) wins.